Hi, welcome and thanks for visiting my Blog.


My name is Emma Grant.


Happily married Mum of two, Auntie to nine, Godmother of ten & Childminder to many.



I'm also a  Qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Counsellor and Parent Coach.




I have fourteen years experience working alongside parents and children.



I enjoy blogging about Parenting & Childcare, love & relationships


Weight Loss / Nutrition &

life in General. 




By granty1977, Jul 18 2018 08:18AM

Photo by Andrew Seaman on Unsplash
Photo by Andrew Seaman on Unsplash

We are all powerful as parents.

We have been gifted with the very powerful position of creating and raising another human being. Someone with the potential to benefit society and even change the world.

Right now, you’ll never know the impact your child may have upon the planet but you can positively influence it!

Other people such as friends and teachers play an important role in our childrens lives but influencing our children is not something we want other people to take responsibility or credit for and certainly it’s not worth leaving to chance.


Our children believe we have all the answers to everything in the universe.

As parents we can put the world to rights, over -come challenges, turn fear to love and kiss it all better when things go wrong.

Making us their heroes and they, like willing disciples are our number one fans. Putting us in the perfect position to teach them whatever we wish them to learn.


We are the first people they meet, love and trust, and the ones who provide for their every need. But are we really being the best role models that we possibly can be?

In reality we may not have all the answers or be perfect parents, but we can still be positive, influential role models for our children to follow


If you want to discover how you are influencing your child their behaviour may not be a good enough indicator, you could of course ask them for their opinion if they are old enough but the following exercise is more enlightening and fun.

• Close your eyes now and imagine what it is like to be your child. Visualise Stepping into their shoes or crawling in their nappies for a day and notice what it feels, sounds or looks like to be them?

• How do you think they feel being your child?

• What do you understand about yourself as a parent from their perspective?

• How do you see yourself influencing them emotionally, educationally, socially, physically, motivationally or spiritually? Are you a good role model to them in all these areas?

• If your child’s old enough to understand the question ‘How do they think you are as a role model?’ would you ask them?

• If not why not? What are you afraid they may or may not say?


Carrying all of that influence and responsibility for someone else on our shoulders can be daunting sometimes.

Equally, it’s also very exciting and rewarding to be able to mould another person into a happy, healthy, and successful individual.

But first we must become the person we want our children to become and this requires ‘walking our talk’ which we’ll explore next time.

Until then Stay Present, the power is in your hands!

Em x

By granty1977, May 2 2018 05:38PM

Photo by Alexander Solodukhin on Unsplash
Photo by Alexander Solodukhin on Unsplash

Picture this, it’s a sunny Monday morning and you’re sat gazing out your window as you sip a warm, velvety, smooth coffee. The children are at the childminders, the housework is all complete and the only noise you can hear are the birds singing. You’ve no where to go, nothing to do, no one to see.

This has got to be bliss?


If heaven were on earth this would surely be it right?

But why does it sound like a fictitious fairy tale, reserved for the Princesses out there not Mums like us?

Because our minds won’t allow us to switch off and just relax.

When there’s nothing to do or worry about, it worries us and we think that something must be wrong?

The still, quietness makes us feel uneasy.

Surely Life can’t be stress free, especially not on a Monday morning anyway?

Besides there’s always something that needs doing or someone that needs us.

Life would be boring sipping coffee all day anyway, we reassure ourselves, as we rush off to find something to do somewhere.

And on cue those Time Takers are ready and waiting to oblige. They are easy to recognise as Time Takers need you, but you don’t need them.

They come in all sorts of disguises and are not always people, they can be jobs that need doing, places we have to go to, commitments we don’t need want or enjoy. Feel free to make your own list of Time Takers as this will be invaluable in taking that time back in the future. Here’s some examples to kick start you off:

• Your boss asks you to do over time.

• Your partner wants you to entertain their friends.

• The dog needs a walk.

• The school needs a volunteer.

• Family are coming to visit.

• There’s a course you must take.

• A Friend wants a gossip.

• Email & Social Media notifications keep going off.

• Your Sister needs a babysitter.

• Your Dad needs help with the gardening.

• Your Mum needs a lift to the hospital.

• The housework / decorating needs doing.

All of these can feel like they urgently need attending to, instead of doing something for ourselves.

And all are worthy, loving acts, but we don’t have to be the one who attends to them all, all the time.

Doing too much can feel like we’re being stretched beyond our limit and this scattering of time and attention, anywhere and everywhere, can result in us going nowhere and doing nothing fast.

Then we end up doing what we urgently feel we have to do, as opposed to what we really want to do, as our actions become dictated by the Proverbial gun.

That’s a bullet we’ll learn to dodge next time!

Until then Stay Present,

Em x

By granty1977, Jan 21 2018 01:34PM

Photo by Allen Taylor on Unsplash
Photo by Allen Taylor on Unsplash


Managing our children’s unwanted behaviour is the most difficult thing to master when it comes to parenting.

We want a lasting approach that works, not a quick fix, short term solution.

This means we need to be consistent, fair, positive and effective in our approach and take our focus off punishment and discipline onto education and explanation instead.

Easier said than done when our little monsters are testing our patience and pressing our angry buttons.


But usually no matter what age a child is, explaining and teaching them why they should or shouldn’t do something, works more effectively than telling them off.

Although it’s useful to know first, what good or bad behaviour actually is?


To help differentiate between the two, I will share a true story that happened to me.

Several years ago, I attended a parent’s evening for my then six-year-old son, who had recently started in a new school. As I sat down excitedly, his teacher greeted me with the news all parents dread to be told, my Son had misbehaved at school that day and received his first red card [a red card is what the children receive for being really naughty and they get punished by not being allowed to go out at playtime with the other children.]

My first thought was ‘Thanks a lot Son, of all the days to misbehave you chose the day of your parents evening to do it. How embarrassing, now I feel like the teachers telling me off too!’

My second thought was, what could he have possibly done wrong to get a red card?

His teacher then went on to explain that, when she had told the class they were having ‘Tambourine Time’ my Son’s enthusiasm over took him, as he jumped up excitedly and proclaimed; ‘Yes my favourite!’


As she could see from my face I was still anticipating what he’d done wrong, she went on to say how bad she now felt for telling him off and giving the card to him, but she needed to ‘quash’ his enthusiasm.

Too perplexed to say anything and some- what relieved that his only conviction was being too enthusiastic over tambourine time, I decided not to say how I felt about the matter. But deep down, I could not understand why a teacher would want to quash a pupil’s enthusiasm for a music lesson she was teaching?

But more than anything, I could not believe the difference between a child being labelled naughty [in my Son’s case with a red card to symbolize it] over something that I, as a Professional Childcare Provider and Mum, would deem a good quality, which is enthusiasm for learning.


This clearly illustrates the difference between what one person deems as naughty or unwanted behaviour, another person could consider acceptable or even admirable behaviour. As we can see from this example, with so much misunderstanding involved in the adult and child relationship, our children may not be aware of or believe that they are miss behaving, until it is pointed out to them by either ourselves or a teacher.

Then even after being told they still may not see themselves as miss behaving but as just being curious or having fun.

The confusion lies in the fact that good or bad behaviour, is really only a matter of opinion and there can be no bad behaviour, unless it is being observed by someone who believes it to be bad behaviour.

The problem with this is, everyone has a different perspective on what is good or bad behaviour, dependant on their own ideas, unique perceptions, moods, individual experiences and beliefs.

Consider this; if our children are having a tantrum whilst they are completely alone and there’s nobody else present, not even us to witness it, are they still being naughty or are there any other words or ways in which we could describe their behaviour instead, such as frustrated, angry, sad, or confused?

Has your child been misunderstood or labelled in the past? If so I would love to hear your perspective on their behaviour, and may if you would like me to, use some examples in my upcoming book? Just leave a comment on this blog post or alternativley privatley message me or get in touch with me on any of the below social media. I look forward to reading your stories and comments.

More on Good and Bad Behaviour next time.

Until then Stay Present,

Em x

By granty1977, Nov 13 2017 04:32PM

Photo by Hannah Tasker on Unsplash
Photo by Hannah Tasker on Unsplash


As a busy childminder cooking tea surrounded by twelve children ages one to thirteen, I know all too well what mealtime mayhem is like.

Forward food prep is essential, it’s all about making healthy, nutritious and filling meals that can be done in one pot or dish and popped in the oven or on the hob and heated up in time.

I say in time in my case as I have parents collecting their children at different times afterschool and I have to make sure they are all fed and watered in time for collection. In the case of you as a parent cooking tea, I mean in time for your child’s hunger cries to be met because by the time children arrive home from school they are always starving.


Children need regular meal times that’s why ‘Routine’ is crucial.

Our children’s bodies get naturally hungry around the times they usually eat each day, so eating at the same time each day is important as our children come to physically expect it.

Eating as a family is great for spending family time together, but if we don’t eat until late it’s best to let our children eat alone, rather than wait for us. As adults we can go for longer without food, however children are more active and use their energy throughout the day and require food to refuel.

Eating late can mean that our children become too tired to eat or take too long to eat it or by the time their food has arrived they’re so starving they bolt it down in one go. They need enough time to enjoy and digest their food, feeling rushed or going to bed on a full stomach is uncomfortable and can also affect their sleep.


Mentally they also expect it too, low blood sugar can affect our children’s behaviour. I’m sure we are all familiar with the party meltdown, where our children have consumed too much sugar too quickly and how they appear to be hyperactive before they enter emotional meltdown?

But their bodies particularly their brains need glucose to function effectively, that’s why we should prevent their blood glucose levels falling.

Low blood sugar or hypoglycaemia is common in children, yet it’s often overlooked as a cause of their unwanted or overly emotional behaviour.

The problem is our children can’t always explain to us how they are feeling and they don’t actually know that their physical symptoms or their moods and emotions are a result of needing food.

Teary, angry, frustrated, sensitive, irritated, tired, depressed, loud, unruly children, lacking in concentration and patience may seem like they are behaving naughty, when actually they are just hungry.

As parents we have to look beyond the mealtime mayhem to understand what is actually going on.

The most proactive thing we can do as ‘Present Parents’ is to ensure we stick to regular mealtime routines that include; fruit, vegetables, pulses, grains and protein and drinking water instead of pop and juice.

Next time we’ll have more food for thought as we look at how food habits have changed over the last fifty years and how that’s affecting us today.

Until then Stay Present,

Em x

By granty1977, Sep 28 2017 10:20AM


Today I was told I was loved, and all it took was a custard cream.

Today I felt the love and all I did was read a short story.

Today a child fell over and all I could be was loving.


People joke ‘I don’t know how you do your job, I couldn’t work with kids!’

And I ponder why? As I swing in the sunshine at the park, listening to all the children laughing and playing.


I get to walk through nature every day, alongside little inquisitive people, who see everything with fresh eyes and awe no matter what the season.

They get excited by the allure of a puddle of rain water, they notice the clouds that pass them by, the ever-changing trees swaying in the breeze, and the birds singing while balancing on its branch with ease.

Such simple things tend to please.


Yes, it’s only the school run and a normal day just like any other, but young children find it fascinating, amazed but such simplicity.

Everyday I’m blessed to have little friends who point these gifts of nature out to me, for without them, I would be oblivious to all the splendour around.


All too often I hear a child asking a grownup ‘What colour are the trees?’ and the grownup will smile knowingly and say; ‘Well trees are green.’

But a child will know better.

Yes, children are younger and wiser, their mission always love and joy, they’re naturally happy, fun and full of possibilities of things not yet done.

Love, laughter and joy is always present, especially when working with children, that’s why I love my job!

Stay Present,

Em x

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