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By granty1977, Apr 18 2018 02:20PM

Photo by Estée Janssens on Unsplash
Photo by Estée Janssens on Unsplash

Do you often feel overwhelmed with things to do?


THE BUSYNESS EPIDEMIC


Do the ones you love suffer as a result of the ever present ‘Busyness’ epidemic, afflicting us parents today?


We would certainly all be more effective, relaxed and Present Parents, if we did not have so many plates spinning in the air. Having too many things on our ‘to do list’ undoubtedly takes our time and attention away from our children.


FRUSTRATION & FORGIVENESS


The frustration arises when we try to keep all those plates in the air and the inevitable happens, we drop a few.


As our children love us unconditionally and are those closest to us, they’re naturally more forgiving than anyone or anything else in our life.


Certainly, we can put them off a lot easier than we can our Boss or our Tax Return. Sadly, that’s why they are the ones who suffer the most when we are busy doing too many other things.


PRESENT IN BODY NOT IN MIND


Even when we are spending time with our children, all too often we tend to still be thinking of past issues or fretting about the future, instead of concentrating on them in the present moment.


Understandably, with our busy schedules and hectic lifestyles, our minds can and do easily wander from the trivia of our children’s conversations or complaints, to our more pressing grown up issues. There is after all only so many times we can concentrate on that story book that only has ten words in it or listen to the trials and tribulations of a cartoon pig!


STREAMLINE NOT TIME


It’s not always time management that’s the problem, often there’s just too many unnecessary things to manage.


Thinking about it logically, would we not all be more confident, present and efficient parents, if we learnt how to stream line our commitments?


For parenting to run smoothly we have to be organised but too many diaries, schedules, plans and to do lists, just keeps us constantly busy. Seeing it in writing everything everyone else wants us to do and how much has to be done, can feel daunting.


When feeling overwhelmed putting a date in our diary for our children can easily get lost.


STOP PLANNING, STOP DOING, START BEING


It’s time to get rid of the unnecessary or unwanted to do’s and focus on the things we spend so much time planning to do, which usually can be done now, not tomorrow, next week, or next month.


The really good news is, the less plates we have spinning, the less breakages we are responsible for, so it’s time to drop those 'Time Takers' once and for all.


More on 'Time Takers' next time, until then all we really need is to keep one date in our diary and one intention for the day; to be happy spending time doing what we love, with those we love most!


Stay Present,


Em x


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By granty1977, Feb 7 2017 01:44PM

We all need goals to succeed in life but it’s not just about the end result. Our own happiness along the way on the journey towards our goal is more important, than the end destination of achieving the goal itself. It’s all about the day to day process of creating or learning that is significant. We all want to succeed in achieving our goals to feel good, therefore feeling good is the ultimate goal.


Here are some pointers that can help us to feel good while working towards our goals.


• CHOOSE WORTH WHILE GOALS - We need goals that personally mean something to us, if we have a goal to quit smoking because our partner wants us to, we are less likely to stick at it and succeed.


• TAKE SMALL STEPS – It’s good to keep the end result in mind but sometime this can be overwhelming, especially to begin with. Break goals down into small, easy, manageable steps and work towards goals gradually.


• HAVE FUN - Goals give us direction and intention in the moment, but we can only find enthusiasm and motivation if the steps that lead to our goals are enjoyable and worthwhile.


• BE REALISTIC – Goals need to be achievable. If our ambitions are getting us down or are too difficult and challenging, they will only serve to make us feel defeated instead of successful.


• BE SPECIFIC - Wanting to lose weight for example, is not specific enough. We have to decide how much weight we want to lose exactly and the ideal weight we are aiming for as well as the clothes size we want to be.


• SET A TIME SCALE - When exactly do you want to achieve your goal? By July the fourth 2017 is a definite date and better than saying ‘Before I go on holiday’ You are more likely to achieve your goal with a time scale set.


• MEASURE PROGRESS & RESULTS - By being specific about what you want and when, you can measure how you are doing. If your goal is to lose 2 stone by July 2017 and you’ve already lost a stone by November 2016, you know you are half way there and that it’s a realistic goal that’s achievable.


• BE DECISIVE - Set a goal and stick to it, give it all you’ve got, unless of course it’s not working.


• CHANGE IT - Sometimes things change so don’t be afraid to change your goals if needs be. There’s little point carrying on in pursuit of a goal, if it’s no longer suitable, working or fulfilling us in some way.


• BUILD RESILIENCE - It’s hard to recover and bounce back from failure or challenges if our only focus is on successfully achieving a goal. Switching our focus to the process of learning and our happiness and well -being along the way, will build resilience. Resilience comes from understanding that it’s not failure or what goes wrong that’s the problem, it’s our own expectations and how we deal with it, and how good we are at being able to pick ourselves back up again and carry on.


• KEEP THE FAITH - We need to build inner strength and faith. We may not always see how something is going to turn out or know exactly what we have to do, but we can still stay faithful to our goals and dreams.


• STAY POSITIVE- Every cloud has a silver lining, if we can identify any good that comes from seemingly, negative experiences, then we will be more inclined to learn and bounce back from them, and try again. By keeping focused on the positive and looking for the good in everything, we will eventually find it and won’t feel helplessly beaten by negativity. Sometimes it’s just a case of changing our perspective, other times our behaviour.


• TAKE RESPONSIBILITY - Our actions and the way we feel is important to reaching our goals. No one else can actually make us feel happy, upset or angry, how we feel is our own responsibility. It’s up to us to choose our response, we have the ability to respond to others and circumstances. When we can take responsibility and still stay positive and upbeat when others aren’t or when things are not going right, we will be the master of our own emotions and be able achieve our goals no matter what.


• LEARN FROM FAILURE - We are not a failure if we don’t succeed or reach our goals, we are a success because we tried. As Edison said about discovering a certain filament in inventing an electric light bulb; ‘I didn’t fail a thousand times, I found a thousand ways that it wouldn’t work!’ Despite the many failures, he eventually found that filament, had he given up trying we may all be sat in the dark today? His best teacher was failure.


• NEVER GIVE UP – Edison was also quoted as saying ‘Many of life’s failures are people who didn’t realise how close they were to success when they gave up.’ When the going gets tough remember this motto: ‘Winners never quit and quitters never win!’


It may be February already but don't give up on your good goals guys!

Best wishes Emma


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