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By granty1977, Jul 18 2018 08:18AM

Photo by Andrew Seaman on Unsplash
Photo by Andrew Seaman on Unsplash

We are all powerful as parents.


We have been gifted with the very powerful position of creating and raising another human being. Someone with the potential to benefit society and even change the world.


Right now, you’ll never know the impact your child may have upon the planet but you can positively influence it!


Other people such as friends and teachers play an important role in our childrens lives but influencing our children is not something we want other people to take responsibility or credit for and certainly it’s not worth leaving to chance.


THE POWER IS ALREADY IN OUR HANDS.


Our children believe we have all the answers to everything in the universe.


As parents we can put the world to rights, over -come challenges, turn fear to love and kiss it all better when things go wrong.


Making us their heroes and they, like willing disciples are our number one fans. Putting us in the perfect position to teach them whatever we wish them to learn.


FIRST LOVE


We are the first people they meet, love and trust, and the ones who provide for their every need. But are we really being the best role models that we possibly can be?


In reality we may not have all the answers or be perfect parents, but we can still be positive, influential role models for our children to follow


SO HOW ARE YOU INFLUENCING YOUR CHILD?


If you want to discover how you are influencing your child their behaviour may not be a good enough indicator, you could of course ask them for their opinion if they are old enough but the following exercise is more enlightening and fun.



• Close your eyes now and imagine what it is like to be your child. Visualise Stepping into their shoes or crawling in their nappies for a day and notice what it feels, sounds or looks like to be them?


• How do you think they feel being your child?



• What do you understand about yourself as a parent from their perspective?


• How do you see yourself influencing them emotionally, educationally, socially, physically, motivationally or spiritually? Are you a good role model to them in all these areas?


• If your child’s old enough to understand the question ‘How do they think you are as a role model?’ would you ask them?


• If not why not? What are you afraid they may or may not say?


A REWARDING RESPONSIBILITY


Carrying all of that influence and responsibility for someone else on our shoulders can be daunting sometimes.


Equally, it’s also very exciting and rewarding to be able to mould another person into a happy, healthy, and successful individual.


But first we must become the person we want our children to become and this requires ‘walking our talk’ which we’ll explore next time.


Until then Stay Present, the power is in your hands!


Em x


www.emmagrantdiphyp.com


https://www.facebook.com/pg/EmmandPaulGrant


https://www.facebook.com/1977therapy


https://twitter.com/EmmaGrantHyp






By granty1977, Mar 27 2018 05:19PM

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

‘Why do you throw rocks before you, the path ahead is smooth?’ A wise Sage once said, he must have been describing parenthood?


OLD HABITS DIE HARD


When children are proving hard to control, the easy path often seems …. well …. too easy!

So, we dismiss it as an option and carry on the hard way out of habit.


But when we find our children’s behaviour hard, it’s usually because we are trying too hard.


What if there was an easier way to control their behavior without being a controlling parent?


END THE BATTLE & WIN THE WAR


One school holiday a Mum came to see me in despair, saying she had lost control of her children and didn’t know how to get it back. She felt as though she was, [in her own words] ‘Fighting against them in a constant battle about everything and felt like she was defeated all the time.’


My advice which surprised her, was to go along with her children whenever she felt totally powerless and to see what happened?


I wasn’t suggesting she leave her children to their own devices and let them walk all over her or encourage them to take advantage of her apathy, I just wanted her to accept and allow their demands temporarily, while she regained her confident, composure and sense of authority and self.


This was to show her children she was not accepting their behaviour powerlessly, instead she was showing them that she didn’t mind either way how they behaved. This reversed psychological approach, not only confused her children somewhat, but as intended, it equipped her to deal with their behaviour.


POWERFUL PARENTS


There was no struggle, instead of feeling powerless and beaten she was able to manage normally challenging situations easily. By her thinking that she was choosing how to feel, she felt empowered, rather than feeling powerless.


Feeling powerless suggests there’s isn’t a choice how to act or feel and nothing one can do.


The truth is there’s always a choice and parents are never powerless, we have all the power, all the time.


I assured her that, her children would soon get fed up of misbehaving once they realised she did not care and that they were not getting any attention for their behaviour.


PEACE AT LAST


What she soon noticed was her children had stopped wanting or asking for the things that previously she was not allowing them. By her not disallowing her children the things they wanted, the battle was over.


They hadn’t won the war though, because really, they didn’t want those things they were fighting for in the first place, all they were interested in was the battle, so she ended up peacefully winning the war.


Wishing you all a peaceful Easter, until next time,


Stay Present,


Em x


www.emmagrantdiphyp.com


https://www.facebook.com/pg/EmmandPaulGrant


https://www.facebook.com/1977therapy


https://twitter.com/EmmaGrantHyp






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