By granty1977, Apr 18 2018 02:20PM
Do you often feel overwhelmed with things to do?
THE BUSYNESS EPIDEMIC
Do the ones you love suffer as a result of the ever present ‘Busyness’ epidemic, afflicting us parents today?
We would certainly all be more effective, relaxed and Present Parents, if we did not have so many plates spinning in the air. Having too many things on our ‘to do list’ undoubtedly takes our time and attention away from our children.
FRUSTRATION & FORGIVENESS
The frustration arises when we try to keep all those plates in the air and the inevitable happens, we drop a few.
As our children love us unconditionally and are those closest to us, they’re naturally more forgiving than anyone or anything else in our life.
Certainly, we can put them off a lot easier than we can our Boss or our Tax Return. Sadly, that’s why they are the ones who suffer the most when we are busy doing too many other things.
PRESENT IN BODY NOT IN MIND
Even when we are spending time with our children, all too often we tend to still be thinking of past issues or fretting about the future, instead of concentrating on them in the present moment.
Understandably, with our busy schedules and hectic lifestyles, our minds can and do easily wander from the trivia of our children’s conversations or complaints, to our more pressing grown up issues. There is after all only so many times we can concentrate on that story book that only has ten words in it or listen to the trials and tribulations of a cartoon pig!
STREAMLINE NOT TIME
It’s not always time management that’s the problem, often there’s just too many unnecessary things to manage.
Thinking about it logically, would we not all be more confident, present and efficient parents, if we learnt how to stream line our commitments?
For parenting to run smoothly we have to be organised but too many diaries, schedules, plans and to do lists, just keeps us constantly busy. Seeing it in writing everything everyone else wants us to do and how much has to be done, can feel daunting.
When feeling overwhelmed putting a date in our diary for our children can easily get lost.
STOP PLANNING, STOP DOING, START BEING
It’s time to get rid of the unnecessary or unwanted to do’s and focus on the things we spend so much time planning to do, which usually can be done now, not tomorrow, next week, or next month.
The really good news is, the less plates we have spinning, the less breakages we are responsible for, so it’s time to drop those 'Time Takers' once and for all.
More on 'Time Takers' next time, until then all we really need is to keep one date in our diary and one intention for the day; to be happy spending time doing what we love, with those we love most!