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By granty1977, Jul 1 2018 03:40PM

Photo by Senjuti Kundu on Unsplash
Photo by Senjuti Kundu on Unsplash

CHOOSE HAPPINESS OVER BEING RIGHT


Parenting presents conflict on a daily basis but just because we are grown up, doesn’t mean we always have to be right.


Our children know exactly how to push our buttons, nevertheless, when it comes to the little things, we can choose to let them be right and we can choose to be happy instead. We don’t always have to get our point across, if it’s not that important then we can choose to let it go.


Twenty Years from Now


Telling our children off for every little misdemeanour or feeling embarrassed by the shallow, judgemental, opinions of others about our children’s behaviour, will not matter twenty years from now.


But our children will remember and appreciate the rebellion in us, that freed their spirit, more favourably than the uptight nervous wreck, who tried to force them to be perfectly not themselves.


Fun is Freedom


We can free ourselves of all this uptight tension and seriousness by learning to take ourselves lightly and accepting that the trials and tribulations along the way, are all funnily enough, just part of the parenting journey.


Our children have the best sense of humour, so let’s laugh with them and at ourselves from time to time. Laughing at poo, bum and farting jokes may not be very mature but who wants to grow up and get old and stuffy anyway?


We need to stay young and have as much fun as long as we can, while we can. Lightening up is an important aspect of parenting confidence. When we are too serious, we take every comment about our children or our parenting as a personal attack on us and this makes us defensive, causing us to lack confidence.


We certainly won’t win any prizes for being the most serious parent, but we will win the love and support of our children, when we lighten up and have fun with them. As well as the admiration of other parents, who will feel inspired by our ability to relax and enjoy our time with our children.


Anchored in the Present


Having fun with our children keeps us anchored in the present. When we are smiling, laughing and enjoying the present, then in that moment we are not stressing, worrying, feeling guilty, frustrated or angry. Negative emotions then just melt away.


Remember, we cannot be sad or stressed at the same time as being happy and relaxed, so let’s choose happiness instead and laugh our parenting cares and troubles away.


Stay Present


Em x


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By granty1977, Jun 13 2017 04:05PM

Laughing at poo, bum and farting jokes may not be very mature, but who wants to grow up and get old and stuffy anyway?


We need to stay young and have as much fun as we can, while we can.


Lightening up is an important aspect of parenting confidence.


When we are too serious, we take every comment about our children or our parenting as a personal attack on us and this makes us defensive, causing us to lack confidence.


We certainly won’t win any prizes for being the most serious parent, but we will win the love and support of our children when we lighten up and have fun with them. As well as the admiration of other parents, who will feel inspired by our ability to relax and enjoy our children.


Seriousness won’t work with our children but responsibility will, and our children’s happiness is our responsibility. Having a laugh and being calm and relaxed in their company matters more than us looking like the perfect parent in front of others.


Who cares what other people think?


It’s how we feel and how we make our children feel that counts.


‘Oh, my goodness, I’ve sent my child to school in odd socks, what will the teachers think?’


Who cares, your child likes odd socks?


They are happy, the least we can do is be happy for them and stress less about the little things.


We can take this approach into situations of conflict with our children too. When it comes to little things, we can choose to let them be right and we can choose to be happy instead. We don’t have to get our point across, if it’s not that important, we can choose to let it go.


Just because we are grown up, doesn’t mean we always have to be right.


Telling our children off for every little misdemeanour, or feeling embarrassed by the shallow, judgemental opinions of others about our children’s behaviour, will not matter twenty years from now.


But our children will remember and appreciate the rebellion in us, that freed their spirit, more than the uptight nervous wreck, who forced them to be, perfectly not themselves.


We can free ourselves by, learning to take ourselves lightly and accepting that the trials and tribulations along the way, are all, funnily enough, just part of the parenting journey.


Our children have the best sense of humour, so let’s laugh with them and at ourselves from time to time.

We cannot be sad or stressed at the same time as being happy and relaxed, so let’s choose happiness instead and laugh our cares and troubles away.


Stay Present until next time,


Em x



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