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My name is Emma Grant.

 

Happily married Mum of two, Auntie to nine, Godmother of ten & Childminder to many.

 

 

I'm also a  Qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Counsellor and Parent Coach.

 

 

 

I have fourteen years experience working alongside parents and children.

 

 

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By granty1977, Jul 1 2018 03:40PM

Photo by Senjuti Kundu on Unsplash
Photo by Senjuti Kundu on Unsplash

CHOOSE HAPPINESS OVER BEING RIGHT


Parenting presents conflict on a daily basis but just because we are grown up, doesn’t mean we always have to be right.


Our children know exactly how to push our buttons, nevertheless, when it comes to the little things, we can choose to let them be right and we can choose to be happy instead. We don’t always have to get our point across, if it’s not that important then we can choose to let it go.


Twenty Years from Now


Telling our children off for every little misdemeanour or feeling embarrassed by the shallow, judgemental, opinions of others about our children’s behaviour, will not matter twenty years from now.


But our children will remember and appreciate the rebellion in us, that freed their spirit, more favourably than the uptight nervous wreck, who tried to force them to be perfectly not themselves.


Fun is Freedom


We can free ourselves of all this uptight tension and seriousness by learning to take ourselves lightly and accepting that the trials and tribulations along the way, are all funnily enough, just part of the parenting journey.


Our children have the best sense of humour, so let’s laugh with them and at ourselves from time to time. Laughing at poo, bum and farting jokes may not be very mature but who wants to grow up and get old and stuffy anyway?


We need to stay young and have as much fun as long as we can, while we can. Lightening up is an important aspect of parenting confidence. When we are too serious, we take every comment about our children or our parenting as a personal attack on us and this makes us defensive, causing us to lack confidence.


We certainly won’t win any prizes for being the most serious parent, but we will win the love and support of our children, when we lighten up and have fun with them. As well as the admiration of other parents, who will feel inspired by our ability to relax and enjoy our time with our children.


Anchored in the Present


Having fun with our children keeps us anchored in the present. When we are smiling, laughing and enjoying the present, then in that moment we are not stressing, worrying, feeling guilty, frustrated or angry. Negative emotions then just melt away.


Remember, we cannot be sad or stressed at the same time as being happy and relaxed, so let’s choose happiness instead and laugh our parenting cares and troubles away.


Stay Present


Em x


www.emmagrantdiphyp.com


https://www.facebook.com/pg/EmmandPaulGrant


https://www.facebook.com/1977therapy


https://twitter.com/EmmaGrantHyp



By granty1977, Mar 27 2018 05:19PM

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

‘Why do you throw rocks before you, the path ahead is smooth?’ A wise Sage once said, he must have been describing parenthood?


OLD HABITS DIE HARD


When children are proving hard to control, the easy path often seems …. well …. too easy!

So, we dismiss it as an option and carry on the hard way out of habit.


But when we find our children’s behaviour hard, it’s usually because we are trying too hard.


What if there was an easier way to control their behavior without being a controlling parent?


END THE BATTLE & WIN THE WAR


One school holiday a Mum came to see me in despair, saying she had lost control of her children and didn’t know how to get it back. She felt as though she was, [in her own words] ‘Fighting against them in a constant battle about everything and felt like she was defeated all the time.’


My advice which surprised her, was to go along with her children whenever she felt totally powerless and to see what happened?


I wasn’t suggesting she leave her children to their own devices and let them walk all over her or encourage them to take advantage of her apathy, I just wanted her to accept and allow their demands temporarily, while she regained her confident, composure and sense of authority and self.


This was to show her children she was not accepting their behaviour powerlessly, instead she was showing them that she didn’t mind either way how they behaved. This reversed psychological approach, not only confused her children somewhat, but as intended, it equipped her to deal with their behaviour.


POWERFUL PARENTS


There was no struggle, instead of feeling powerless and beaten she was able to manage normally challenging situations easily. By her thinking that she was choosing how to feel, she felt empowered, rather than feeling powerless.


Feeling powerless suggests there’s isn’t a choice how to act or feel and nothing one can do.


The truth is there’s always a choice and parents are never powerless, we have all the power, all the time.


I assured her that, her children would soon get fed up of misbehaving once they realised she did not care and that they were not getting any attention for their behaviour.


PEACE AT LAST


What she soon noticed was her children had stopped wanting or asking for the things that previously she was not allowing them. By her not disallowing her children the things they wanted, the battle was over.


They hadn’t won the war though, because really, they didn’t want those things they were fighting for in the first place, all they were interested in was the battle, so she ended up peacefully winning the war.


Wishing you all a peaceful Easter, until next time,


Stay Present,


Em x


www.emmagrantdiphyp.com


https://www.facebook.com/pg/EmmandPaulGrant


https://www.facebook.com/1977therapy


https://twitter.com/EmmaGrantHyp






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