By granty1977, May 29 2018 04:27PM
Life is stressful at times. Sometimes all we can do is just get through the day, surely there has to be an easier way?
Last time we looked at ‘Time Takers’ and how they can be worthy causes of time and attention but we don’t have to be the one who attends to them all the time. When we try, we can feel like we’re being stretched beyond our limit and this scattering of time and attention, anywhere and everywhere, can result in going nowhere and doing nothing fast.
Then we end up doing what we urgently feel we have to do, as opposed to what we really want to do, as our actions become dictated by the Proverbial gun.
THE PROVERBIAL GUN
This feels like someone is literally holding a loaded gun to our head, making everything suddenly, urgent or life-threatening, leading to stress and anxiety.
Not surprisingly then, a lot of this urgency and those perceived problems are magnified by our own imagination.
Constantly feeling worried or hurried though, can actually lead to real problems manifesting in our lives, affecting our emotional and physical health and wellbeing.
In reality, we are the only ones holding the gun to our head, no one else and actually the gun is not loaded, it’s only imaginary, so we can now release the pressure on the trigger and on ourselves.
NO TIME LEFT FOR ME
This imagined pressure we impose on ourselves, gives the illusion there’s no time for those things we wish we could do.
Yet, often the real issue is most of us feel guilty about spending time on ourselves when there’s so many ‘more important’ things, we feel we should do.
As luck would have it, there’s nothing more important than spending time tending to our own needs.
After all, if we don’t have our own health and happiness, we will lack the energy needed to take care of the most important people in our lives, our children.
Anyone who has ever flown on an aeroplane will be familiar with the safety drill, where the Stewardess asks you to put on your own safety vest and masks before your children’s or anyone else’s.
Taking care of ‘You’ first is a priority, if you don’t, you won’t be able to care for your child.
PRIORITISE YOU TIME
That’s why it’s important to prioritise time each day for ourselves, once a week is not enough.
Time to savour a coffee as we daydream or soak in a bath full of bubbles, read, enjoy a glass of wine, go for a spa day or go to a restaurant, the cinema, gym, or evening class.
As parents we are selfless and can’t help putting the needs of others before our own but taking care of our own needs is not being selfish, it’s vital, pursuing our own interests positively affects not only our own wellbeing but our children’s too.
So, 'You Time' is a present to our children, as well as ourselves because happy parents really do equal happy kids.